Saturday, July 10, 2010

What do you do when child wants to quit?

So we are at a new crossroads in our house right now. Kate decided the other night that she is done with cheering allstar's. Pitched a fit about it and everything at 13. The first thing I told her was that she was out of luck, if she wants to quit then she needs to wait until the season is over- at our house we don't sign up for something and then quit. Then it went to, I don't know that I want to "quit" but that I just want to take sometime off and just tumble. So I still said, well your out of luck- your commited for the year.

Finally she explained to me the reason's why she wants to quit- they consist of basicly it's not fun anymore. This season our gym merged with a gymnastic's gym and moved 30 mins away. Alot of her friends parents just couldn't make the drive, and truthfully we havent been doing a whole lot of team bonding so these girls hardly talk to each other. I understand that. I also understand that I don't want to be that parent who is forcing their child to do anything! So after a long talk- that I have not had with her coach yet, I am going to let her take some time off. Gracie on the other wants nothing to do with taking time off, and so she will not be joining her sister in taking a break.

I guess when it comes right down to it, I am not going to force my child to do something that her heart is not in right now, and she hates doing. I am also not going to make her misrable. Plus I really think that she will back in a month and ready to go.

There are other issues as to why she is not wanting to do it, and well I am not going to post them on here because I don't want to upset anyone that might read this- but I do understand why she feels the way she does.

Do you all think that I am doing the right thing by letting her take some time off? Or should I make her stick it out?

3 comments:

  1. OMG, Nikki! You need to call me. We need to compare notes. Lexi had a meltdown Weds night and Thurs morning and she said she wanted to quit! Maybe the gym you are at is not a good fir for you, Did you read my blog?

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  2. Not yet, but I will go there now :)

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  3. How long is the rest of the year? Did the year just start and you can get your money back? Well seeing as you have not told us everything, you have to decide. Not just being fun after you have committed to others is not right, but if there are other reasons.. you have to make the judgment call.

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